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Marriage

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photo courtesy of http://www.onewed.com

Marriage

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When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

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Love Stories: A Valentine’s Day Tribute

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photo courtesy of andrewmapley.blogspot.com

Yesterday, when I started thinking about what I wanted to post for Valentine’s Day this year I found myself reflecting back to “love stories” of the past year that I remembered and loved the most.  These ‘love stories” are just a handful of moments either captured in a news article, photograph or video over 2012 that really tugged at my heart strings when I first came across them. Although I am sure there were a many many more stories about love that I found joy in discovering over the past year these five “love stories” are the one’s that came instantly to mind when I asked myself the question, “what does it mean to be in love.”

1.  I don’t think there were many women out there that didn’t swoon while watching Issac Lamb’s now infamous proposal to his girlfriend Amy Frankel.  The six minute video of Lamb’s lip-synced proposal to the Bruno Mar’s song “Marry You” starts out with Frankel wearing headphones, listening to the song Lamb’s brother tells her “reminds him of them ( Frankel and Lamb) the most.” As Frankel sits in the open back of an Honda CRV that slowly rolls down the street, she watches as Lamb is gradually joined by approximately 60 of their friends and family, all dancing and lip-syncing together, ending in a grand finale involving a marching band and of course Lamb asking for Frankel’s hand in marriage.  Perhaps the best part of the entire video is watching Frankel’s reaction as she experiences a wide range of emotions from giddiness, to shock, to happy tears, while watching Lamb and their family and friends perform what many dub as one of the greatest proposals of all time.  Aside from the creativity and elaborate choreography, Lamb’s proposal was such a sensation because it was a glowing example of how special it is to be loved by someone so much that they would go above and beyond all expectations to make you happy. In an interview with Today’s Ann Curry when asked why Lamb went to such great lengths to propose to Frankel he simply replied, “”I felt like she deserved something like that.”

2.  In October of 2012 while visiting Bondi Beach, a 20 year old Sydney University student trying to capture images of the early morning sunrise captured something even more romantic, a proposal. The student, Michael Keane, did not even realize the magic moment he had photographed until he returned home and began post-processing his images. In a statement posted by Kean on the website reddit.com Keane explains the story of how the images came to be, “I was at the Sydney International Food Festival taking dozens of pictures on shore hoping that at least a few would turn out right. I saw the couple’s silhouette on the cliff, so I started taking pictures with them in it because I thought it would be cool in the pictures. It wasn’t until I got home and was looking through my camera that I realized “holy crap, he is down on one knee in this one….holy crap in this one before it he is in the PROCESS of getting down on one knee.”

photo courtesy of oi46.tinypic.com

photo courtesy of oi46.tinypic.com

3. The fight for the legalization of same-sex-marriage has been a long and tedious one and is far from over but the progress made over the last decade can’t be denied.  As of January 2013 nine states including Connecticut, Iowa, Main, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York,  the District of Columbia and Washington state have all legalized same sex-marriage and we can only hope that others follow their lead.  The next love story in this Valentines Day Tribute comes from WashingtonState where a picture taken of a couple obtaining their marriage license became what many believe to be one of the greatest images of what marriage equality can look like.

Shortly after same-sex marriage was legalized in Washington, Larry Duncan, 56, a retired psychiatric nurse, and Randell Shepherd, 48, a computer programmer made their way to the King County Administration Building to wait in line to apply for a marriage license after being together for 11 years.  It was 1:30 AM on December 6th when the couple finally reached the front of the line and as they raised their hands in union to take an oath in front of a King County Representative, Seattle photographer Meryl Shenker snapped a photo of the soon to be infamous couple after the image would go viral after being posted on Reddit.   The image of the two soft-spoken men, both dressed in plaid shirts, with full grey beards, and camouflaged colored hats, raising their hands in union together, starring straight ahead seems to challenge any stereotypes people have of same-sex couples.  When Shepherd and Duncan first heard about their internet fame they laughed with Shepherd stating simply, “That’s just who we are.”  Just a few days after the infamous picture was taken Shepherd and Duncan were married at Seattle First Baptist Church in a group ceremony with 24 other couples.

photo courtesy of washingtonpost.com

photo courtesy of washingtonpost.com

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